Embracing Your Entrepreneurial Superpower Being Unemployable

Embracing Your Entrepreneurial Superpower Being Unemployable written by John Jantsch read more at Duct Tape Marketing Marketing Podcast with Alysia Silberg In this episode of the Duct Tape Marketing Podcast, I interview Alysia Silberg. She is a leading venture capitalist in Silicon Valley, where she mentors tech startups and helps them go public. She is the CEO & General Partner of the investment firm Street Global. Her online radio show: Global […] How To Turn Adversity Into Purpose Through Mindset written by John Jantsch read more at Duct Tape Marketing Marketing Podcast with Siri Lindley In this episode of the Duct Tape Marketing Podcast, I interview Siri Lindley. She is a two-time world champion triathlete and winner of twelve ITU World Cup races. She’s the top female triathlon coach in the world, she’s guided Olympic medalists and Ironman champions to not only become better athletes but also better people. Siri is also a life coach, keynote speaker, and the Founder of two non-profit organizations. Her upcoming book Finding a Way: Taking the Impossible and Making it Possible. This life-giving guide is for readers who are feeling stuck between the life they want to live and the life that they’re living now. It gives you the tools and strategies you need to find a way through your struggles and on to triumph. Key Takeaway: Siri shares her inspiring journey emphasizing the importance of taking control of one’s life and mindset in order to overcome challenges and achieve personal growth. She explains the power of making conscious decisions, focusing on what one wants, and taking responsibility for one’s experiences. She attributes her survival and thriving to her belief in herself and the meaning she assigned to her challenges. Furthermore, she highlights how failure becomes an opportunity for learning and growth, while gratitude, support, and living with purpose and love are essential in everyone’s journey. Questions I ask Siri Lindley: [02:04] Your life has some pretty amazing chapters. So did you find a way to condense it into your book? [04:46] How did you get involved in triathlon? [06:22] At the top of your game you’re diagnosed with a disease that gave you around a 5% chance of survival. How did that change the game? [08:52] How much of your beliefs do you attribute to actually surviving? [12:23] I know you have accomplished a lot already, but I suspect that surviving when you weren’t expected to, drives you to say, who am I not to accomplish more, right? [15:43] You coach athletes and non-athletes as a life coach. Is there really a difference in terms of how you break through? [17:03] As a triathlete, how much of your success is mindset? [20:47] Tell me a little bit about your nonprofits. More About Siri Lindley: Get your copy of Finding a Way: Taking the Impossible and Making it Possible. For every book sold, $2 is donated to Feeding America and the rest of the profits go to Siri’s non-profit Believe Ranch and Rescue. Get a free chapter of Finding a Way by texting “GOFIRST” to 66866 More About The Agency Certification Intensive Training: Learn more about the Agency Certification Intensive Training here Take The Marketing Assessment: Marketingassessment.co Like this show? Click on over and give us a review on iTunes, please! Duct Tape Transcript Email Download New Tab John Jantsch (00:00): Hey, did you know that HubSpot’s annual inbound conference is coming up? That’s right. It’ll be in Boston from September 5th through the 8th. Every year inbound brings together leaders across business, sales, marketing, customer success, operations, and more. You’ll be able to discover all the latest must know trends and tactics that you can actually put into place to scale your business in a sustainable way. You can learn from industry experts and be inspired by incredible spotlight talent. This year. The likes of Reese Witherspoon, Derek Jeter, Guy Raz, are all going to make appearances. Visit inbound.com and get your ticket today. You won’t be sorry. This programming is guaranteed to inspire and recharge. That’s right. Go to inbound.com to get your ticket today. (01:03): Hello and welcome to another episode of the Duct Tape Marketing Podcast. This is John ch, and my guest today is Siri Lindley. She is a two-time world champion triathlete and winner of twelve ITU World Cup races. She’s the top female triathlon coach in the world, she’s guided Olympic medalists and Ironman champions to not only become better athletes but also better people. Siri is also a life coach, keynote speaker, and the Founder of two non-profit organizations: Believe Ranch and Rescue, and Horses in Our Hands Survivor and Thriver. And we’re gonna talk about her new book: Finding a Way: taking the Impossible and Making It Possible. So welcome to the show. Siri Lindley (01:47): Well, thank you for having me, John. I’m thrilled to be here. John Jantsch (01:51): So you took just like the most traditional path available to becoming a coach and author, and so your life has, and I’m sure you’ve spent a lot of time telling this, your life has some pretty amazing chapters. So have you found a way to kind of condense it into here’s, you know, here’s my background? Siri Lindley (02:13): Well, you’re exactly right. And I think every single one of us have different chapters in our lives. And what I’ve realized in my life is that it’s been through my greatest challenges that I of course, experienced the greatest growth. And in those moments, you know, the decisions that I made in order to move out of a space of suffering are exactly the decisions that move me forward towards the life that I dreamed of living. But I think that my story, you know, as a kid, as a college student, I was overwhelmed with fear and anxiety. I was a student at Brown University, three sport varsity athlete, but on the inside I was just slowly dying. I was really suffering with anxiety. And in those days, people didn’t talk about anxiety, they didn’t talk about fear, they didn’t talk about ocd. So I thought I was just this crazy person. (03:17): And this kind of led me to my greatest mentor, Tony Robbins, with his first book that he’d written Unlimited Power. And this book woke me up to the truth that I am the conductor of my own symphony of life. And if I don’t like the music I’m creating, which I didn’t, I was very unhappy. I’m the only one that has power to change me. And I think so often we forget that life is in our hands and we need to own the experience that we’re having because what we’re experiencing in life is a result of what we’re focusing on. The meaning we’re giving things and the decisions that we make, what we choose to do about it. And at that time, I was creating a tragedy. So I decided that instead of always focusing on everything that was missing, everything that was wrong, anding, that I had no control over everything that I didn’t wanna have happen, that I was gonna use the same discipline that I put into my studies and in my sports, and use that to discipline my focus in as many moments as possible to focus on what I wanted, what I loved, what I had, and what I could control. (04:31): And that started, kind of took me out of this horrible space I was in at that time, leading me to wanting to figure out who the heck I am. Because are, yeah, sorry, you, John Jantsch (04:43): You, you were an athlete, but you did you just wake up one day and say, I’m gonna try the hardest sport possible, and oh, and by the way, I can’t swim. Siri Lindley (04:51): Right? So I’d been a field hockey, ice hockey and lacrosse player, but I, at the time when I found triathlon, I actually had just discovered that I was gay. And it was a big discovery that was scary at that time. And my father, my hero, didn’t respond very well to that. And I lost my father when he realized that I was gay. So this kind of set me on this desperate mission. Mm-hmm. to prove to myself that even though I was gay, I could achieve something that I thought was special, that I could make a difference in the world, that I could be loved, that I could respect myself and find a worthiness from within. And it was literally the day after our phone call where that was it. At that time, when I found triathlon, I went and watched a race, and I just loved that there were people of all ages, sizes, abilities, but they were all just like digging so deep to right. (05:49): Find more within themselves. So even though I didn’t know how to swim after watching that, I said, this is what I wanna do. And for me, for my sake to earn my own love, my own respect, I am going to, one day I’m gonna set the, the, the goal that one day I’m gonna be the best in the world, which was ridiculous. My first race, dead last, my first race, I’m yelled at, you know, people laughing at me. But for me, there was a really important reason why I at least had to show up and lean in and try. John Jantsch (06:21): So at the top of that game, you’re diagnosed with a disease that gave you somewhere around 5% chance of survival. So how did that change the game Siri Lindley (06:34): In every way? I mean, it’s in that moment, I think I’d spent my lifetime up until that point wanting to find freedom from within, wanting to find freedom from my pain, freedom to be all of who I am. And I’d found it, you know, I’d found it. And then I get this diagnosis and it brought me to my knees. But in the same note, like I’ll never forget standing there with my wife, finally I’d found the love of my life. And the doctor is talking to me and saying, Siri, you know, you’ve got a myeloid leukemia, you’ve got a genetic mutation. And my wife is screaming at the top of her lungs, I hear his voice, and the story I’m hearing is this is the end. And I wasn’t willing to live that story. So in that moment, even though I didn’t believe it myself, I said, I’m gonna survive and I’m going to thrive. (07:33): Now think about this, John, even though I didn’t like, did I believe that in that moment? No, I’m terrified. I’m brought to my knees, I’m devastated, but I couldn’t afford to live. Imagine how I would show up if I agreed that this is the end. Mm-hmm. , would I show up ready to fight and do whatever it takes and find a way and, you know, discipline my folks in every moment? No. If it’s the end, I’m gonna show up a lot different to I’m gonna survive and I’m gonna thrive on the other side. So what meaning do you give a challenge like that? What meaning do you give it? Are you giving it a meaning that’s gonna lead you to showing up in a way that is going to help you move towards what you want? Or are you showing up in a way that is going to ensure the end? It’s up to you. And even though in that moment when I said those words, I didn’t necessarily believe it, I needed to become the person that did believe that she would survive, that did believe that she would thrive on the other side. What would she do? Future me that survives this? What would she do? What actions would she take? What meaning would she give what’s happening and be her every single day until I became her? John Jantsch (08:49): How, and I suspect this is still hard to talk about sometimes, but how much of that belief do you attribute to actually surviving Siri Lindley (08:59): All of it? Because think about this. I mean, the meaning you give something determines how you show up, what energy you show up with, which then determines the actions that you take. And I believe that was the most important thing, was deciding, knowing that my outcome was to survive this, my outcome. And I remember saying it, you know, I walked into the first big meeting I had with my medical team, and when I walked in, I could see the looks on their faces. And it was that look of like, oh my God, she’s so young and this is so sad. And I walked in and I said, look, I’m gonna survive this and I’m gonna thrive on the other side. This is gonna be my most beautiful triumph. And if there is anyone here that doesn’t believe in that, I need you to leave. Because I need to surround myself with people that believe as much as I do that this is possible. (09:57): So think about like, who are you surrounding yourself with mm-hmm. , and what are you clearly articulating what you want? And is everyone else that’s on, you know, are they on board? But the, you know, from that point in every single moment where I was deeply suffering, I mean, in my darkest moments, I would catch myself and I would say Siri, like focusing on how sick you are, how weak you are, how terrified you are, that is not gonna help you heal. So I would change the channel just to gratitude for the fact that I had health insurance, gratitude for my doctors, my donors, my mom who slept on the couch in the hospital every night. And that gratitude was the bridge from despair to hope. That gratitude gave me a little bit more energy where I could make, make better decisions on what to focus on, and thus fill myself with more of what I needed to actually take steps towards surviving. And we all can do this. John Jantsch (10:58): And now let’s hear a word from our sponsor, marketing Made Simple. It’s a podcast hosted by Dr. JJ Peterson and is brought to you by the HubSpot Podcast Network. The audio destination for business professionals marketing made simple brings you practical tips to make your marketing easy and more importantly, make it work. And in a recent episode, JJ and April chat with StoryBrand certified guides and agency owners about how to use ChatGPT for marketing purposes. We all know how important that is today. Listen to marketing Made Simple. Wherever you get your podcasts. (11:35): Hey, marketing agency owners, you know, I can teach you the keys to doubling your business in just 90 days, or your money back. Sound interesting. 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And you know, I lost a lot of friends that were on the same clinical trials as me, as me, and I’m not gonna live this life with survivor’s guilt. I’m gonna live this life with survivor’s responsibility, that I have a responsibility to bring every ounce of my soul into this world and to hopefully make a positive difference in the world and every human that I encounter. And that’s where this book was born. You know, that there was a very powerful moment as I, where I was really sick and I actually didn’t know, you know, God, what if I’m not here tomorrow? Mm-hmm. . And in a moment like that, you start thinking about, well, gosh, like is it okay if, like, if this is my last day, did I live my life in a way that, that I, I’ll be happy with? (13:37): And as I thought about it, you know, there were certain things that, that were the most important to me. And that was, did I love with all my heart? Did I love everyone in my life? Did I show them love? Did I tell them I love them? Did I love what I did? Did I love myself? Like, like did I love with all my heart? Did I live fear fearlessly? Meaning did I say yes to things that scared the crap out of me? Yeah, I had, you know, I did triathlon, I sucked. That was scary. I did it. So that was fearless. But you know, there are other things I can do more. I can be more. And lastly, you know, did I make a difference in the world? And I had, you know, with my athletes, I touched their lives. I made a difference. (14:25): But I thought,